May 15, 2015
In this podcast I thought I’d spend a bit of time talking about how head trash might show up in your life and to help you to trace it back to its roots cause and what you can do about it.
Today I’m going to talk about something that I think we all feel at some point... feeling trapped. What is that all about then? And is there anything that can be done about it?
Well, yes there is something you can do about it. If you’re feeling trapped for whatever reason… maybe in your job, in a relationship, or in the town that you live in… then NEWSFLASH!! ... it’s just a feeling. You’re not ACTUALLY trapped. Unless you're locked in a cell or a cage, or tied to a wall, then your feelings of being trapped, are just that... FEELINGS. And the great thing about feelings is that we can change them. But I’m not talking about positive thinking stuff.. I’m talking about some rewiring of thought.. some repatterning!
If you’re feeling trapped, then it’s likely that one of your key values in life is freedom. You LOVE freedom, and so you HATE being trapped. The thing is, these are natural opposites and so the love for one will feed the hate of the other. And the more you love one, the more you’ll hate the other.
Why? Newtons 3rd Law of course!
Newton's 3rd Law states that: For every action, there is an equal and opposite reaction.
This means that for every force there is a reaction force that is equal in size, but opposite in direction. That is to say that whenever an object* pushes another object* it gets pushed back in the opposite direction equally hard.
*objects are matter and matter is energy, and I'm talking about emotional energy so the same universal law applies
So how do you get out of this mess? Well the answer is to clear the excessive emotional energy that currently exists at both ends. Or to put it another way, to create neutrality.
Neutrality is the absence of emotionally charged negative thoughts, feelings and emotions… giving you freedom choice and flexibility.
Practically, that means using our 5 Step Head Trash Clearance Methodto clear FREEDOM and TRAPPED... it’ll probably take you around 45 minutes... but could be one of the most transformational 45 minutes you’ve ever spent.
But, doing this might not totally resolve your problem because you might have some value conflicts going on too. Specifically you might have a value conflict involving freedom….
Family is often on a direct collision corse with freedom for some people… their need for freedom is so strong that some people check out of the family set up, just to FEEL free.
Success requires knuckling down and doing the work, which might mean compromising on your freedom in the short term... but if freedom wins short term, then success might never succeed.
Some people are afraid of commitment because they value freedom so much, and yet love is really important to them, but freedom wins short term and love is never given the space to grow… and yet true love ultimately means freedom but their fear or hate of being trapped prevents them from ever getting to that place.
If you think you have value conflicts then you need to neutralise your values (and their opposites using the 5 step process and that will enable you to find a way forward that enables your values to exist collaboratively rather than competitively.